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Moonlight, Midnight and Making Love In their Marital Bed

That old house, with a master suite designed for lovemaking.

That old house, with a master suite designed for lovemaking.

Have you ever had a tryst in your lover’s house? Make love in the bed s/he shares with his/her spouse? How did you feel about it?

May 2009

B.’s wife and their two youngest kids went off to the Twin Cities to visit relatives. She missed the flight out of Milwaukee and B. was furious at her for taking the kids out of school and then not getting to the airport in time. The three waited in the MKE airport for hours until the next flight.

B. and I, on the other hand, enjoyed dinner in town.

I say “enjoyed” loosely. His pent-up anger at his wife simmered throughout our date, clearly pissed at what was apparently yet another failing in their marriage. He chilled briefly when his family was finally in the air only to get miffed again when they somehow went missing upon landing. AWOL in St. Paul.

B. spent the better part of the evening on the phone with his sister-in-law trying to determine when the wife and kids would show at her place. Eventually, he either stopped caring or just left the entire mess with the sister-in-law. Dinner was tense, uncomfortable. I listened and commiserated as best I could, but only a stroll around town on this unseasonably warm spring night finally relaxed him.

The street lights seemed dim in comparison to the full moon, heavy and high in the sky. We spoke a lot about the moonlight as we dipped in and out of several shops. The newsstand he favored was bustling, and it was there that he suggested we go back to his place. With the cat and the mice away, the big dog decided he would play…with me.

I’d never visited, nor had an assignation in, his home before (hey, even I have scruples). The floorboards creaked as we walked through the pretty Victorian-era house. High ceilings. Pocket doors. Ornate molding. Nicely decorated. And, sadly, a complete mess.

I tried hard to keep a downward gaze, not wanting to glean more than I already knew about the wife. B. kept my eyes on the prize as we wound our way up the spiral staircase until we reached his top-floor master suite, surprisingly and atypically modern. They’d put this addition on many years earlier when life was good. Now, it was a cluttered space overrun with house plants. One of the wife’s rag-doll cats looked at us drolly as we stripped naked.

B. started running the hot water in the shower and I stepped inside to find two shower heads. I always wanted a two-person shower, I told him jealously. “We haven’t used it in forever” was the sad reply. We soaped and rinsed each other with a tender, familiar sensuality. Good, clean fun. On toweling off I noticed the vanity mirror directly opposite the platform bed and a skylight invited the full moon in. I said I loved the room’s ambience. “I designed it for lovemaking and fucking,” B. answered. “Haven’t done either in here for a long while.”

And in this perfect aerie, our lovemaking shielded from the neighbors by a large tree, our bodies joined as one under the light of the moon. B.’s eyes welled up with tears.

In the afterglow he begged me to stay the night. I didn’t want to see the house in daylight, didn’t want to take inventory of what his wife wore, ate, read, bought. I wished to keep the magic of the night, so I kissed B. goodbye and let the moon light the path to my car and the 30 miles to my house, back to my own troubled marriage.

At 3 a.m. I texted B. that I’d made it home safely.

Later that morning, he emailed:

You you and YOU made a potential night of being in the dumps a night with true joy. Thank you. I kept telling you that I understood your hesitancy [Ed note: at staying overnight], and please know that I did and do. You may have missed some morning sunrise fun, but it was a cloudy early a.m. so it would have been special but not as special as the light of the sun streaming in over our bodies. Please give me a call when the chance allows. I long to hear your voice.”

Three months later, B. moved out of the house permanently. Their separation, and the road to their eventual divorce, had begun. The house sold in June 2013.

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Exit 4A

A former mistress (26 years, on-and-off) describes the good, the bad, and the ugly of her long-term affair. Conclusion: Affairs aren't necessarily destructive if kept in the correct perspective. Our experience enhanced BOTH our marriages.

That is, until his marriage ended and we began to love each other. When the affair morphed into a relationship, well, that's when it stopped being fun for me.

For 26 yrs we luxuriated in implicit Trust. When B. cheated on ME, it was the first time another person came into our relationship besides our respective spouses.

We have now irrevocably split.

4 replies

  1. She tried to get me to several times and I always refused. Had we, they would have moved by now, I am sure. I say that because he found out about the one room we did make love in and has refused to go in there since. 🙂

    1. Thanks for reading and for the comment. As you read, I had some trepidations myself, not only going into his house but certainly up into their master bedroom. I think the two-headed shower fun relaxed me — I got over the strangeness of the situation.

  2. After about 8 months of meeting up in hotels it was Easter weekend. I was suppose to meet him for dinner and he ended up working late. I went to a bar and ate and he surprised me there. He said if I didn’t mind leaving my car in the Walmart parking lot we would just go to his house and save money. I was really apprehensive since he had to kind of sneak me in. I carried only a toothbrush and change of clothes. He too had a big double shower that he had built. He said she had never used it with him. We went to his office and watched some tv and then on to their bed. It felt weird being there but he said not to worry. The next morning he took me back to my car. He said I was the only one he had ever snuck in his house.
    We have done it about three other times since but only when he knew she was out of state. Each time it has become less weird for lack of a better word. The last weekend I spent with him from Friday to Monday and even cooked for him which was strange. He says she never does any thing like that for him. I decided if it was ok with him then I had to be ok with it. I loved cuddling on the couch, cooking together, and doing couple things even though it wasn’t my place to do so. We actually felt more connected after that weekend than any. The only thing I had is the sneaking in and out part. I understand it but don’t like it.

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