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#ThrowbackThursday: Today’s My Birthday!

An email of positively “explosive,” “over-the-top” birthday wishes from B. to me back in 2009:

Birthday wishes from 2009 - 6 months before he left his wife

Birthday wishes from 2009 – 6 months before he left his wife

And how he “evolved” a couple of years later:

An email from when we were really in the thick of it.

An email from when we were really in the thick of it.

Or DID he evolve?

He never was demonstrative with words or deed. He never got comfortable saying the words, “I love you,” and that simple declaration would have meant diamonds to me. The above is what I learned to accept from him. It was all the emotion he seemed capable of giving.

Are these the words of someone who is a commitment-phobe? A narcissist? Or someone who was just stringing me along…? 

 

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Exit 4A

A former mistress (26 years, on-and-off) describes the good, the bad, and the ugly of her long-term affair. Conclusion: Affairs aren't necessarily destructive if kept in the correct perspective. Our experience enhanced BOTH our marriages.

That is, until his marriage ended and we began to love each other. When the affair morphed into a relationship, well, that's when it stopped being fun for me.

For 26 yrs we luxuriated in implicit Trust. When B. cheated on ME, it was the first time another person came into our relationship besides our respective spouses.

We have now irrevocably split.

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