Happy Fourth of July!
I get a sense they’re not together anymore. B. didn’t show up for moral (or legal) support the last two times she tried to dust me in Court (which I won). He missed the fireworks, though, as the woman who replaced me came off as an addled old shrew. They sure deserve each other: the narcissist and the neurotic.
And there have been fireworks in divorce court, too: after 18 months of nasty legal wrangling, B.’s divorce is nearly final. There’s a “prove up” hearing this Wednesday, which means the parties have basically agreed to an adjudicated settlement and the terms are not good for B.: I hear he has lost a 30/70 split of the marital estate. Ouch! Maybe our 26-year affair cost him big time.
I shed no tears.
A former mistress (26 years, on-and-off) describes the good, the bad, and the ugly of her long-term affair. Conclusion: Affairs aren't necessarily destructive if kept in the correct perspective. Our experience enhanced BOTH our marriages.
That is, until his marriage ended and we began to love each other. When the affair morphed into a relationship, well, that's when it stopped being fun for me.
For 26 yrs we luxuriated in implicit Trust. When B. cheated on ME, it was the first time another person came into our relationship besides our respective spouses.
We have now irrevocably split.