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I get a sense they’re not together anymore. B. didn’t show up for moral (or legal) support the last two times she tried to dust me in Court (which I won). He missed the fireworks, though, as the woman who replaced me came off as an addled old shrew. They sure deserve each other: the narcissist and the neurotic.

And there have been fireworks in divorce court, too: after 18 months of nasty legal wrangling, B.’s divorce is nearly final. There’s a “prove up” hearing this Wednesday, which means the parties have basically agreed to an adjudicated settlement and the terms are not good for B.: I hear he has lost a 30/70 split of the marital estate. Ouch! Maybe our 26-year affair cost him big time.

I shed no tears.


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Exit 4A

A former mistress (26 years, on-and-off) describes the good, the bad, and the ugly of her long-term affair. Conclusion: Affairs aren't necessarily destructive if kept in the correct perspective. Our experience enhanced BOTH our marriages.

That is, until his marriage ended and we began to love each other. When the affair morphed into a relationship, well, that's when it stopped being fun for me. We have now irrevocably split.

Lately I've been writing about the man who took his place in the "off" years of that 26-year-long affair. He was a dynamic sexual partner but we, too, now have irrevocably split.

These are our stories.

7 replies

      1. You’ll laugh at this one. One of your sexy blog posts about Cassandra was introduced as evidence by B.’s (maybe ex-)girlfriend in court in May. She was seeking a protection order because I identified her in my blog and on the related Twitter account, not wanting her or her online business to be associated with the “filth” I write on Exit 4A. She tried to use one of your comments on my blog as evidence of Exit 4A being “pornographic” because your posts are pretty steamy, so she tried guilt by association. It didn’t work. The judge dismissed it. But now your “Earthlings” blog is semi-famous in the 2nd District Court of Cook County, IL! Congrats! LOL!

      2. Sorry for the delay in responding, Marty. I had to fish through the voluminous, but ultimately, inconsequential, amount of paper B.’s gal pal produced in court to try to get this blog stopped.

        Her argument was that she was connected to my blog (it’s true I have written about her here) and that the blog was connected to “pornography,” and she produced copies of some of your posts as “evidence” — since you follow and comment on my blog she merely followed the trail. The ones she copied off, but never got the chance to produce in Court, were “Porn Star Marty,” “I Must Be Chained,” “Caution!,” “I’ll Drink To That!,” “Midweek Fantasizing…I’m Focused,” and “So Marty, George, Clint and Paul Walk Into A Bar…”.

        Her great problem was she represented herself, did not hire a lawyer (I had two), and so when we all got to Court she rambled on, confused the judge, had no focus, and ultimately the judge ruled that a protective order is meant to protect someone from violence, not insults. She ruled against the gal pal and in my favor. I still am prevented from identifying her in the blog or making reference to her business, but I can write about her in general terms if I so choose…..but she is an afterthought at this point. No one, least of all me, cares about her anyhow.

  1. I bet it felt good!!! sorry I haven’t been reading your blog like I should but glad that Karma bit him in the cushion!!! and I better catch up on Marty blog… LOL

    1. Thanks for reading and commenting — I have not been writing much lately. Perhaps I have now said all that needs saying? I am not a mean person but when someone goes out of their way to hurt me like B. has done, especially after a two-decades-long relationship, it tends to set me afire. Thanks again for your kind support.

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