Just after Thanksgiving, as the world was slipping into the season of giving, my ex-boyfriend and his current gal pal decided they would give my husband a “present:” they would try to break up my marriage by telling him about our affair.
Except he left her to do the dirty work, lingering outside my husband’s building as she posed as a potential legal client thereby gaining access to his law office. What a spineless shit! Who knows why he didn’t do the deed himself instead of putting his kooky girlfriend, the lawless loser, up to it. Perhaps he was afraid there’d be a physical confrontation?
The ambush lasted less than 10 minutes, but the Kook told him all about the affair with her current beau. My husband told me afterward that she came across as “very disturbed” and that she was “fat” (!!!). When she asked about the state of our marriage my husband rose from behind his desk, told her it was none of her business, and summarily ushered her out. Then he told his front office staff that the pair of them were not welcome there again.
We discussed the meeting when he came home from work that night. He wasn’t angry, and we had a straightforward talk. He didn’t seem upset, he didn’t lash out, her tale apparently rolled off him like water off a duck. We had a very pleasant dinner out and said no more about that cunt’s visit.
After dinner we went to the cops who advised us to send “DO NOT TRESPASS” notices to them both, so if they showed up at his office again, they’d be arrested for trespassing. We added our home address to the letter and sent them each a copy. Kooky Girl is already under court supervision for driving under a revoked license owing to a previous DUI, so if she breaks another law she’s heading right for the slammer. Part of me hope she tries this stunt again; I’d greatly enjoy seeing her in cuffs.
The “big reveal” did NOTHING to influence or harm my marriage. I can’t explain my husband’s monumental indifference to their ambush and to the information imparted, but ours remains a rock-solid marriage. And life goes on.
A former mistress (26 years, on-and-off) describes the good, the bad, and the ugly of her long-term affair. Conclusion: Affairs aren't necessarily destructive if kept in the correct perspective. Our experience enhanced BOTH our marriages.
That is, until his marriage ended and we began to love each other. When the affair morphed into a relationship, well, that's when it stopped being fun for me. We have now irrevocably split.
Lately I've been writing about the man who took his place in the "off" years of that 26-year-long affair. He was a dynamic sexual partner but we, too, now have irrevocably split.
These are our stories.